Friends should be able to talk to eachother. When something that one wants to do does not appeal to the other, friends should be able to simply say, "I don't think so. Not something I feel like doing."
A friend of mine is the kind of person that hates confrontation. He will go along to get along... even to the point of being completely annoyed with the situation that he finds excuses to just avoid the person he is annoyed with. Never mind the fact that the whole annoyance could be avoided by just saying no...
In this crowded seclusion of mine, I am always the last to figure out... that source of annoyance is me. I am always so eager to find areas of common interest and activities of mutual enjoyment that I weird people out. Overbearing is another way of saying it, at least that is how my wife calls it.
Anyone else can see the hints... Can pick up on the slight hesitation and then irritation on the voice.. me. Not a clue. I have to have things spelled out to me bluntly. Most cannot imagine why I am so dense. So clueless. So socially inept. Surely someone can't be so blind to pi** off everyone around him at first presentation every time...
Sad but true, first impressions are the hardest to break and earning the second chance is often so hard to get that one might as well just hope and pray the sun comes up in the west first.
My crowded seclusion: many an acquaintance, never a friend.
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