Change does not come easy for me. I change locations and like everyone in my same situation, start from scratch. My "scratch" stage is a bit rougher than most though. I have to probe carefully and try to figure out the intricacies of human interactions with all new group of my employees.
For the average person, this truly is a no brainer... Having the ability to 1) sub-consciously gather data and feedback on things like current mood, agitation level, level of communication comprehension, level of job satisfaction and 2) take that data and synthesize a model of understanding and character baseline for each individual. Me, lacking that ability, I end up doing the one thing I have have learned in order to be able to cope... Make a matrix in my head for each employee on what I said and what the reaction was... Both instant reaction, and delayed response... Come back and modify matrix after any misjudged reactions and try a logical alteration of initial communication the next time I am in a similar situation with that employee. A veritable "hunt and peck," or "trial and error," "sink or swim" method that is both time consuming and dangerous.
I have been able to make a general matrix of do's and don'ts to start with and that has made transitions a bit easier... Like having a rope to climb the empire state building from the outside.. but nothing more...
My Crowded Seclusion: being in a fight for my life every time I meet someone new.
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